One of the biggest challenges of caregiving is that no matter how much you do, how much of your life you devote to giving care, it still seems like it’s not enough.
I know because I felt that way when I was working full time and caring for my elderly mother. No matter what I did, it seemed as though 24 hours in the day were not enough. I was tired, exhausted, and my patience seemed tested by the smallest things.
Sometimes it’s nice to be reminded that how much you do isn’t as important as why you do it–and the love that goes into it.
Finding your own caregiving support–whether family, friends, professionals or online like Caregiving With Purpose can make a tremendous difference. You are not alone. Depending upon which survey you read, there are an estimated 43 to 90 million family caregivers in the U.S.
What helped me most?
Realizing that I was human, not super-human and that I could not do everything on “To Do” list in one day. Prioritizing helped, as did getting help from my family. There were things I could not control or change, and accepting that while doing the best I could in love made caregiving more than bearable, it made it a blessing.
And a Gratitude Journal or List helped me to keep my focus on what was good and blessed in my life, and still does today.
To your Happy&Healthy Caregiving,
Ina Gilmore MD
Global Purple Angel Dementia Ambassador
P.S. November is National Family Caregiver Month and Alzheimer’s Awareness Month. Join us in caregiving support on the Caregiving Heroes Facebook Page.