“A Special Message For All Caregivers
Who Are Ready For The First Practical
Step-By-Step Road Map To Reclaiming
Your Energy and Enthusiasm!”
Simple Changes CAN Guide You Through the Wilderness of Caregiving While You Remain Whole and Happy!
Now you can discover the secrets of more than surviving – thriving – in caregiving…
“A HEART PLAN Audio Package—
Overcoming Caregiving Heartache”
From the Desk of Ina Gilmore, M.D.
Dear Frazzled Caregiver,
The hardest thing I’ve ever done is become the primary caregiver for my terminally ill mother.
Mother lived with me, so the bulk of her 24/7 care fell to me. My sister helped while caring for her own family. I was blessed because she was there when I needed her.
Caring for my mother was an honor. And one of the best things I’ve ever done. I have no regrets. It also was the most difficult…
The Stresses and Strains of Caregiving
Caring for someone 24/7 means when they are up at night, so are you. You have the physical strains of caring for her—dressing her, helping her with the activities of daily living and even the additional chores that come with caregiving.
Unexpected laundry due to accidents is one example of additional chores. And in focusing on your caregiving and care recipient, you often lose yourself.
Physical exhaustion is only part of the problem…
There’s also the emotional part. It’s not easy watching someone you love lose her physical or mental capabilities. Or both.
Your help may be rejected at times, as she struggles to keep her independence.
And the decisions you now need to make can mentally drain you—even if you weren’t already emotionally and physically exhausted.
I know what it’s like to snatch a few minutes of sleep, only to drag yourself out of bed to answer another call for help. And when the person you’re caring for lives in the moment, waiting for you even a few moments can seem an eternity to her.
Just when you think it can’t possibly get any more difficult, something else comes along…
The Darkest Hour
When my mother was dying, I became ashamed of her medical team. Her needs seemed secondary to their schedules and protocols.
It was a bleak time. I was physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted. It seemed as though my sister and I were all alone, even when there were people in the room.
When Mother’s doctor suggested violating the express wishes of her Living Will, we rebelled. My sister and I were her advocates. In that moment, we spoke for our mother, insisting her wishes be honored.
Chief Robert TallTree said it best when he described it as our “Inner Warriors” coming roaring to life. And roar they did!
You see, I was an Infectious Diseases and General Internal Medicine physician for many years. I’ve cared for patients and their caregivers professionally in a variety of situations.
And I worked with other professional caregivers and with family caregivers. So I thought I knew what I was getting into.
As a physician I have worked long hours, including weekends. But I have never put in the hours I did as a primary caregiver.
And it is demanding work—physically, emotionally and mentally.
It also has rewards. Such as your loved one turning to you and crying, “I don’t know what I’d do without you.”
The Caregiver’s Heart
Caregivers often get called to become a caregiver.
A phone call is common. Perhaps in the middle of the night, that your loved one needs you. Or perhaps you felt called—as in a spiritual calling to your heart—to step into the shoes of a caregiver.
After my family’s experiences, I felt a need tohelp other caregivers who do not have a medical degree or experience caring for patients. The more I looked into caregiving, the more I realized caregivers often feel alone, isolated and voiceless.
It’s true. Caregiving can be lonely.
When the rest of the family is sleeping… the doctor’s office is closed… or just in those panic moments of a crisis.
It’s important to realize you are not alone…
“There are only four kinds of people in the world –
- Those who have been caregivers…
- Those who are currently caregivers…
- Those who will be caregivers…
- And those who will need caregivers.” ~ Former U.S. First Lady Rosalyn Carter
In 2009 experts estimated that over 65 million people in the U.S. cared for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend. In an estimated population of around 305 million at that time, over 21% of the population were caregivers!
Lack of Available Answers
After my mother’s death, I began earnestly seeking what was available for caregivers.
Many of the suggestions were interesting, although often at best only partial answers…
One very popular book seemed written only to a select audience. As I looked at the suggestions offered, most of them were not available in much of the U.S.
While many books and websites described the problems in caregiving, most offered few or no helpful, concrete solutions. I looked unsuccessfully for simple steps a caregiver could use to decrease the strain and pain of caregiving.
In searching for a solution for caregivers, I wanted to help family caregivers navigate the wilderness of caregiving—emerging happy and whole.
As I reflected on what helped me and studied lessons learned by others, I found what I did—and what I should have done—to make the journey easier and less traumatic. Those lessons became…
A HEART PLAN
It shocked me to learn that some caregivers have up to twice the risk of heart related diseases than the general population!
In thinking about it, though it makes sense. As a caregiver you have a generous heart. It’s no wonder that some of the things you deal with cause heartache—and maybe even heart damage.
Caregivers often put off their own needs—including medical care—to care for a loved one. And while focusing on giving care, it’s easy to miss the warning signs of their own health issues.
A HEART PLAN is a simple plan you can use part or completely. Maybe you need to focus on one step for a while before moving on. Or maybe you can go through the steps quickly.
You can customize A HEART PLAN to suit your own needs and situation.
Inside “A HEART PLAN Audio Package—Overcoming Caregiving Heartache”, you’ll discover…
- The keys to maintaining positive energy through caregiving (and how to train everyone in the family to keep the positive energy flowing, too!)…
- How to use laughter to boost your immune system (staying well longer!)…
- The secret to moving out of false guilt (this negative emotion can insidiously spread through a caregiver’s mind – promoting stress and disease!)…
- How to train your mind to be grateful and full of light – even in the middle of doctor’s visits and frantic schedules…
- The secret to decreasing negative stress through “blunting”…
- Strategies you can use to maximize caregiving opportunities at every level – nurturing your body, soul and spirit…
- How simple muscle relaxation can help you let go of your body’s build-up of negative chemicals (no tools needed, and so easy even a child can do it!).
And MUCH More!
Here’s What You Get In “A HEART PLAN Audio
Package—Overcoming Caregiving Heartache”…
First you’ll get access to two audios of Chief Robert TallTree and Terri Lynn TallTree interviewing me about caregiving and A HEART PLAN. In these audios you’ll hear you’re not alone. You’ll get the keys to caregiving with joy and health. You can listen to them as often as you need. And there’s a special gift from The TallTrees at the end of the second audio.
You’ll also get a Quick Start pdf page you can print. It explains what each letter stands for, and is a reference you’ll want to keep handy.
Plus, your own E-Guidebook takes you step by step through a full 30 days of A HEART PLAN. One easy step at a time. It even includes a log to record your action steps.
And that’s not all…
You’ll get an E-course showing you step-by-step how to use A HEART PLAN in your caregiving. And how it can make a difference in your life. A daily email will explain each step.
Because I know caregivers are often pressed for time, these short emails will give you an inspiration and a brief action step. In 5 minutes or less you can find out about your next action step, and how to take it.
This is at least a $47 value!
You’ll get a copy of my E-book: “Elder Care—101 Questions Family Caregivers Need To Ask.” Rather than giving you the answers, these questions are designed to help you discover—and ask—the questions you need to ask about elder care. This is a $17 value.
The bonuses alone are worth at least $64!
So how much will all this cost?
This introductory offer is being made at $97 $77 only $47.
It’s an instant download, so you can begin right now…
Yes, I want my copy of “A HEART PLAN Audio Package—Overcoming Caregiving Heartache” now!
Plus you get The Caregiving With Purpose Guarantee!
Download the package, read the Guidebook, keep a log, read the e-course emails and take every step recommended to you in the program.
If after 30 days of following the program to the letter you are not feeling less symptoms of stress, frustration and overwhelm, you can turn in your program log showing your results for the past 30 days to support “at” CaregivingWithPurpose “dot” com for a refund.
You can begin right now to overcome your heartaches of caregiving.
From my heart to yours…
Laugh Well, Love Well and Live Well,
Ina Gilmore, M.D. (Retired)
“The Knitting Dr.”
Founder, www.CaregivingWithPurpose.com and www.TheKnittingYarn.com
Ambassador of Caregiving at www.HowToLiveOnPurpose.com
P.S. This introductory price may increase at any time. So get your copy now for only $47.