Are you living in the present moment?
Is fretting over the past or future increasing your signs of stress?
Worry can increase your heart rate and blood pressure in addition to other medical problems.
When Janet’s mother Irene developed Alzheimer’s disease, Janet was understandably upset. Before Irene was diagnosed, Janet often found herself upset and frustrated at Irene’s questions and need for extra help.
She realized her children coped better than Janet and her siblings.
The young grandchildren simply accepted Grandma Irene as she was. They didn’t seem to mind if she forgot their names, or didn’t remember what she had for dinner. And they didn’t realize she acted differently than she had years ago.
They were living in the moment. Accepting Irene as is.
Janet found her signs of stress reduced when she also accepted Irene in the present – just as she is in the here and now. Not the person she was long ago.
She stopped trying to get Irene to remember things she couldn’t.
Would living in the moment right now decrease your caregiver stress?
Living in the now, without regrets for the past or fears for the future can be very freeing.
It can also help you move into a more positive mindset.
Now there’s nothing wrong with remembering the past and learning from it. And preparing for the future is often wise.
Living now in the present can still be very powerful.
What are some ways you can live in the present moment?
1. Accept and enjoy your care recipient for who she is today.
2. Celebrate what you can do today.
3. “Focus on one thing at a time.” ~ Kelly Wagner
How can these steps help?
Accept and enjoy your care recipient for who she is today. Instead of fretting over how your care recipient has changed, accepting things as they are today can help reduce your stress. Letting go is very powerful – and very positive.
Celebrate what you can do today. Go beyond accepting to celebrating and being thankful for even little things today. Maybe it’s a smile or something you can do together your care recipient may not be able to do in the future.
In celebrating and giving thanks you create positive energy.
And what does positive energy do?
Positive energy counteracts the negative energy of worry and stress. Adding positive energy can reduce your stress, and maybe even eliminate it.
You like gifts, right?
Celebrating is like giving yourself a gift! You can capture some of that positive energy you feel when you open a gift.
What if it only lasts a moment?
Celebrate the moment. Then see if you feel less stress! Celebrating can take many forms, including being thankful.
“Focus on one thing at a time.” While caregivers are masters of multitasking, sometimes you need to simplify. By focusing on only one thing at a time you may find you don’t have room for worry or stress about something else. And doing one job at a time can give you a sense of accomplishment instead of a sense of never completing anything.
Are you having problems focusing on one thing because you have too many things to do?
Finding calendars and planners just not what you need?
Keeping track of all you need to do as a caregiver can be challenging. Hey, sometimes it seems impossible! Especially when you have constant interruptions or are exhausted.
And I’ve tried calendars, planners and “To Do” lists without success. Until I found one recently that changed my view of planners.
Now there’s a tool to help you keep track of everything, including caring for yourself. You can find it at
Check it out and see how it can help you live in the present moment.
To your healthy caregiving,