When you’re struggling with choosing between a nursing home or live in for Alzheimer s patient, you may not realize all your options.
Sandy (not her real name) initially thought the diagnosis of early Alzheimer’s disease in her mother meant a nursing home was the only option.
Her mother could no longer balance her checkbook or do numbers. After frank discussions with her mother and her mother’s doctor, Sandy and her husband decided to care for her mother as long as they could in their home.
Sandy’s mother adjusted well to the move, becoming a pleasantly confused addition to the family. Her mother’s doctor and Sandy have ongoing discussions to make sure her mother is getting the best care. And that Sandy and her family are not becoming exhausted and overwhelmed from caregiving.
They are keeping their options open as much as possible, and have looked into alternatives for when Sandy’s mother needs more care.
Nursing home care is expensive, and may not be covered by insurance such as Medicare. And for some people, familiar surroundings and a loving family can be a blessing. Unfortunately, it can also be hard on the caregivers.
Part of the decision needs to include what’s best for the person with Alzheiemer’s. Some of the questions to ask when considering a nursing home or live in for Alzheimer s patient include…
- Can the house be made safe?
- Will he wander and get lost outside?
- Does he need more care than you can give?
- How does it affect the caregiver?
- How does it affect the other members of the household?
It’s very much an individual decision between a nursing home or live in for Alzheimer s patient. It’s also often a decision that can change with time. As the disease progresses, the caregiver stress may become too much for the caregiver or her family. Or the one with Alzheimer’s disease may need care you can’t provide.
And then you may need to make other arrangements.
Do you know that when you’re the caregiver for an elderly adult, in many ways it can feel like the reverse of parenting?
Oh sure, many people describe it as the child becoming the parent. Yes, that’s true.
Beyond the adult child taking on the parenting responsibility, it gets more intensive as time goes on. The person with Alzheimer’s disease will need more care with time.
With a child you may lose the most sleep the first weeks or months until she can sleep through the night for example. With an Alzheimer’s patient, her sleep may get worse with time.
Plus she’ll need need more care—more help with eating, getting dressed, bathing, and other activities of daily living. As time progresses and she forgets more things, she may lose the ability to speak or communicate. She may even eventually become bedridden, and need turned and given extra care to prevent bedsores, joint stiffness and more.
Knowing what to expect from experts like her doctors can help you make the best decisions for everyone.
So you can see why options for care including more care in the home, assisted living, and nursing home should be periodically addressed.
For the sakes of the person with Alzhiemers disease, you and your family. Thinking about long-term options before you have to make the decision can give everyone involved time to adjust to the new options.
Are you thinking about these decisions for your loved one?
Choosing options including nursing home or live in for Alzheimer s patient can be time consuming.
And sometimes you need help in asking the right questions. You may be able to get help locally through your loved ones’ doctor or local Agency on Aging.
There are services that will help you find the right alternative for you and your loved one. Such as this one that has FREE information…
To your healthy caregiving,
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