This week blossoms are bursting open in the flowering trees in this part of South Carolina.
The long cold winter (for this area) seems to be ending. And the promise of spring reminds me of an ancient Greek myth . . .
The ancient Greeks explained the seasons of the year through the story of Persephone.
Demeter, the goddess of agriculture, protected and adored her beautiful daughter Persephone.
One day while picking flowers in a meadow, the earth opened up next to Persephone. The god Hades, King of the Underworld, arrived in his chariot and kidnapped Persephone.
He took her to the underworld to be his queen.
Grief-stricken Demeter searched throughout the earth for Persephone. In her grief, Demeter stopped all food from growing on the earth.
Eventually Demeter learned of Hades’ deception, and demanded Persephone’s return. Before leaving the underworld Persephone ate pomegranate seeds, which meant she needed to return to the underworld.
A deal was worked out where she spent part of the year as Queen of the Underworld with Hades and part with Demeter. Winter is the season she spent with Hades.
Are the stages of grief keeping you stuck in winter?
In 1969 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross described 5 stages of grief . . .
Hanging on to one of the earlier stages, especially depression, can keep you feeling like your life is stuck in winter.
How can you move out of winter and into spring?
When you’re ready, you can change the negative grief into more positive emotions by doing things like . . .
- Remembering the good times, perhaps creating scrapbooks for family members.
- Passing on knowledge learned from your loved one. Like teaching your children to knit the way your mother taught you.
- Honoring the memory of your loved one by doing something in her honor, perhaps volunteering at a charity she supported. Or support a non-profit like the hospice that helped ease her journey Home.
Forcing someone else or yourself into another stage is never a good idea.
Everyone needs to work through the stages of grief in his or her own time — and in his or her own way. It is a very personal journey.
Looking for ways to honor your loved one’s memory?
Have you heard of The 21-Day “I AM a Gift to the World!” Challenge?
It’s a way to show people how much they mean to you. And the first life you change may just be your own!
Keep knitting to your heart’s delight — or someone else’s,
Ina Gilmore M.D. (ret.)
Ambassador of Elder Care, www.HowToLiveOnPurpose.com
Founder, CaregivingWithPurpose.com and TheKnittingYarn.com
“The Knitting Dr.”
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